Church has become some moral grid for our behaviors.

And even the Bible says that idea will run our spirits into the ground to the point of wanting to die.
Romans 8 says that if we focus on our flesh to any extent, even with the goal of fixing it, it will lead to death.

Want life and peace?
Set your mind on the Spirit of God.

How to do that?
I'm still working on that part.
And I guess I hope I never stop.