A little more advice given to me by a wise man:

-Deal with your crap.  Nothing just goes away.
-Find someone who wants what they already have and spend time with them.
-Don't be self deceived.
-An expectation is often just a resentment waiting to happen when you force it on others.
-Just do the things for your wife that you know you need to do.
-First question to ask when I'm frustrated is, "What is wrong with me?"